How Has Motherhood Changed Me ?
From being footloose and carefree to being cautious and well-organized, from being confused and uncertain to being sorted and confident, from being easy-going and at times ignorant to being more informed and well-researched – motherhood changed me completely, only for better.
Motherhood did not come easy to me. I had a high-risk twin pregnancy which made me undergo multiple tests, hospitalization, weekly injections, ‘n’ number of medicines – all that made me feel more like a patient and less like a pregnant woman. During those nine months, every motherly feeling of happiness came with a sigh- sigh of sciatica pain, sigh of food aversions, sigh of nervousness! At that time I kept wondering what exactly does motherhood entail, apart from the physical changes that my body underwent. It didn’t take me too long to get that answer. I soon realized that motherhood is not just a feeling that dawns upon as soon as we hold our kids for the first time. It’s more like a journey of growth and transformation that changes the entire being of a woman.
Motherhood changed me at many levels. I became aware of my strengths and weeknesses. I learnt to take my responsibilities happily. Most importantly, I started to understand my life better- my priorities, my vision, my expectations from life- all became clear.
Here’s how else motherhood changed me –
1. I started to value my parents more
It’s rightly said that we start valuing our parents all the more when we step into their shoes and face their struggles. Not that I loved or valued them any less before, but after being a mother myself I realised how it isn’t easy. I could now feel the struggles my parents faced in a more real way. All of which has made me more expressive in my love and respect for them.
2. Moved towards a healthy lifestyle.
My husband and I realised that our young kids are fully dependent on us. As much as they need to be fit and healthy, we too need to be super energetic and active in order to take care of them in the best possible way. So we adopted major changes in our lifestyle. From binge eating to cautious meal planning, from packed and junk food to organic and natural choices, we have moved towards a healthy lifestyle.
3. Gained a new found confidence of doing things my way
The initial days of motherhood brings in a lot of nervousness and confusion, which is made worse with the multiple suggestions and advices that come from all directions. For me, that phase was overwhelming. However I learnt how to follow my own heart and do what suits my situation. This confidence of knowing my instincts and doing things my way emerged stronger on becoming a mother.
4. Patience, Efficiency and Organization- All Seeped In
Motherhood familiarized me with my own abilities. Be it my ability to breastfeed my twins non stop for 5 hours or to put them to sleep together in 5 minutes, be it my patience to deal with their growing tantrums or efficiency in managing them together along with my work and home – I derive confidence from my own powers and strengths that I never knew I had.
5. Learnt to enjoy and treasure each moment of life
Life with kids changes every minute. They grow up fast and their antics, their activities that we enjoy today only form our cherishable memories for tomorrow. So I now treasure and enjoy each phase, knowing that it’s temporary and won’t remian the same. I have learnt to live each moment of life fully.
It’s not wrong to say that motherhood is a life-changing event. It brings along many challenges and struggles but at the end it only makes a woman capable and equipped to understand her life better.
This post is a part of the blog train started by Pooja Kawatra of Mums & Babies. She has brought along 41 moms across the globe to share their story of how motherhood has changed them. Meet the 41 moms here). Pooja has also shared her own perspective on this here.
I want to thank Danisha from LoveThatYouCanBuy for introducing me and I invite Alpana from MothersGurukul to board the train with me and share her views on the same. Alpana is an Indian mom in USA with two cute little angels. She is a management professional and passionate writer, who has contributed various articles for websites like Parentous, Indian Moms Connect, World Of Moms, etc. Her blog beautifully records her wonderful parenting journey with her son and daughter.
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Also read: The Hardest Part Of Motherhood