Motherhood teaches us many things. One of the biggest lessons that I have learnt is how to prioritize life with twins, how to focus on things that are important, and let go off others that aren’t. Most importantly, I have learnt how to compromise with situations in order to preserve my sanity.
I am a work-at-home mom. Some days I find myself giving my best both at work and at home. And somedays I really struggle to maintain a balance between the two. One mantra that I follow and that really helps me to be productive at both the spaces is to prioritize my day and organize it better. I usually to stick to a schedule and choose tasks as per priority. This helps to bring the best out of me and also makes my life peaceful.
Sharing here some simple ways on how to stay sane and prioritize life with twins:
Make a list of important things to-do
I usually do this and it helps. Make a list of the most important things and what needs to be focussed first. For eg – my top priority is always health of my family (especially kids) . This means there is no compromise on their food, diet, sleep etc. Second priority is my work so I make sure to stick to my deadlines and finish my assignments for the day. Third priority is spending quality time with kids. So I always spare out some hours to spend time with them for some fun activity (because it’s imp). Last priority is house chores, simply because they can wait. In the first year especially, most of my house chores were done in the night (be it laundry or cleaning) after putting kids to sleep.
Don’t Try To Do It All
Returning phone calls? Being punctual always? Choose your tasks wisely. Some things can wait, some avoided. And for those who know you personally will understand your situation as a mom of twins. Most of the time, my attempt to-do-it-all leaves me in a mess. Instead of reducing my work, it adds mental pressure and stress. So I find it wise to let it go sometimes.
Accept Help & Delegate Tasks
Never ever hesitate to accept help! For one, you need it!! Seek help from family or friends mainly in the first year to manage your kids and house. If not, hire a domestic help and delegate chores. Honestly it’s not easy for someone who is a control freak (just like me), but we all learn it especially if it helps to ease our workload. .
Learn To Say No
Play Date plans? Impromptu outings? Not always do they work out, especially with twins. As much I feel bad saying no to people, I have learnt to do so. Be it visiting a relative or meeting a friend, if it’s a weekday that calls for a change in routine. I try to avoid it. We love our routine and a slight change in the same leaves us all in a mess. So most of our outings are pushed for the weekend. Choose as per your convenience and feasibility and if it doesn’t suit it’s ok to say No.
Stay Guilt Free
There are days when my kids are unwell and my work takes a backseat. And there are days when I work all through the day in order to meet a deadline and give extra screen time to kids. I try not to get bogged down by guilt in any situations. Such days are rare and it’s only human to not be perfect all the time. Every mom does her best and nobody (not even yourself) should make her feel bad about it.
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