Feel Beautiful : ‘I am beautiful in every single way’ – Christina Aguilera
I am 5 feet tall and have always been on the chubbier side. All through my school life I have been addressed as ‘githi’, ‘chutki’, ‘moti’, etc. And I pretty much got used to such adjectives. I would pass them off laughingly but somewhere they did impact my confidence. I still remember when the time came for my class 12 farewell and I had to choose a saree for the day, the only factor that I had in mind was that I should pick up a saree that would make me look slim and tall. Nothing else mattered, not even the excitement of wearing a saree for the first time in life. I raided my mom’s closet, my cousin’s closet and tried more than 20 sarees, still wasn’t happy by any. My mom and sister had a tough time convincing me then.
And somewhere this idea that I should always choose such clothes that make me look slim and tall stuck with me. For a long time, I would not choose clothes based on comfort, fabric or style. I would rather choose them based on how fat, slim or tall they are making me look. And let me admit, all though I have accepted my body type now, these factors still work at that back of my mind everytime I go shopping.
Let’s accept it! The way we look, or the way we dress directly translates into our confidence. If we don’t find ourself looking good, our confidence dips heavily. And sometimes a single compliment by a mere acquaintance is enough to make us feel on cloud nine. Its ironical, right, how we often look at ourself through the eyes of others
What is beauty?
For a relatively large period of my lffe, I believed beauty lies in tall height, slim figure, fair complexion, perfect lashes, etc. And even aimed for the same. It took me a long time to understand that beauty is beyond these fixed ideals of size, height, weight or complexion. Beauty doesn’t lie in perfect dress or hairstyle. It rather lies in how we feel about ourselves. It lies in our behavior, in our actions.
Let’s realise that noone can make us feel happy or confident, than we ourself. Let’s stop committing 3 mistakes that we usually make in our attempt to look beautiful –
1. Stop finding faults in yourself. Accept yourself with all yout strengths and flaws. I think the day we learn not to let our imperfections impact our dreams, ambitions and confidence, we become perfect in so many ways. Don’t you think?
2. Stop comparing yourself to others. To think of it, there is no ideal or standard point of comparison because no one is born perfect. We all have a few shortcomings but the way we deal with them and make it a win for us and not a loss, is what makes us beautiful.
3. Stop perceiving yourself through the eyes of others. Compliments or comments – stop taking them too seriously. Because they aren’t a measure of who we are.
4. Stop trying to look beautiful, rather try to feel beautiful. And you certainly will when I you will be happy, confident and in control of your life.
Frankly, now if someone asks me what makes me beautiful, here is how I like to describe myself –
I am not what I look
I am not how I dress
I am not the way I style
I am certainly not
what others think of me
I am beyond height,
weight or complexion.
I am life lived,
I am places visited,
There is so much to me
beyond my skin.
I am not what I look.
I am rather what I feel
I am simply what I think.
I may be imperfect in many ways,
Yet I am beautiful
In every single way.
So if you still have doubts whether you are beautiful or not, think again!
It gives me immense pleasure to share that I along with 30 other bloggers are celebrating Woman’s Day in a unique way by writing our hearts out and bringing together this special blog together #Unapologeticgirlz. I thank Preetjyot who writes at MylittlemuffinMom for introducing me. She is an inspirational mom who writes about breaking the stereotypes and raising independent girls.
I would also take the opportunity to introduce Sneha who is a fellow mom of twins and a prolific writer. She shares her parenting stories at It’satwiningstory
Do check out their posts on the prompt for the day Self-love.