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I Am A Homemaker And Also A Feminist

One of the most talked about terms these days is Feminism. While many women claim to be feminist, not all know what its real meaning entails. I was absolutely baffled when while sharing my views on this topic with my friend, I was cut short by her saying, ‘you are a Housewife, you should be the least one talking about Feminism’! Her light remarks failed to amuse me and got me thinking seriously, Does being a housewife make me any less of a feminist? 

Read my take on being a ‘Feminist Homemaker’ here:

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A Leader Who Solves The Problems Of Ordinary Indians- in 140 characters or Less

Isn’t the mere thought that the country’s foreign minister can be approached via a ‘tweet’ very empowering? In case you find yourself in a stressful situation abroad, all you need is to send a tweet to this minister. Not just will you be assured of a quick response but would also get immediate help. That’s how the current External Affairs Minister,  Sushma Swaraj likes to work.

Read about this leader who is an inspiration for many.

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7 Delightfully Hilarious Female Stand-up Comedians Of The Country

Making people laugh is no more just a men’s game. There is a whole lot of funny, peppy and confident women who with their tongue-in-cheek remarks can make people laugh their guts out. Presenting the female side to humor, the stand-up game of these witty and smart women is spot on.

Here are seven sterling female comedians who are creating a new benchmark in the world of stand-up comedy.

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Empowering Ways To Compliment A Woman

Were you at the receiving end of a ‘scorn’ when you complimented your colleague on “How cute she looks” ? And you thought your compliment will get you in her good books.

When it comes to women, complimenting is an art which varies based on the relationship that you have with the women, and the setting. Like you can never call a woman ‘sexy’ in office, remember what happened at TVF… A compliment given at the wrong hour for a wrong reason with a wrong intention never sounds relevant and true. Hence always be mindful of ‘what’, ‘when’ and ‘how’ to compliment.

Read my article on the essential tips that you should keep in mind while praising a woman. These will get your compliment game on lock.

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The Change

As mothers, while we enjoy the daily monotony, there comes a point when ‘change’ is all that we need. Sometimes we are rejuvenated by something new happening in life and sometimes we feel overpowered by the same,  so much so that it leaving us incapable of how to deal with life. Life throws both the situations at us and it’s tricky how to handle both.

Life keeps changing at every step and it’s tough to ignore the transition that we face. Whether we love it or detest it- we really can’t avoid it.  So in order to live fully, be happy and at peace,  it’s best to accept life as it comes our way.

Here is a small poetic attempt with a simple yet meaningful message- ’embrace the change that is an inevitable part of life’.

 

Change

Change is not static, it’s eternal:
The Cosmos, the Time and Us
It occurs with every breath
Neither does it have any death.

From past to present to future 
Change has been a great tutor
It teaches a new lesson everyday
Not always easily but also the hard way.

Some people are all agog over change
They take it to be a part of life
They welcome it with open arms
They think, it causes no harm.

However, some are sceptic 
They really don’t accept it
They think they can fight against the tide
And can change the course of ‘change’ coming in their stride.

But Beware!
It’s force is inevitable 
It’s spirit is unconquerable 
No one can defy its power
Its impact is felt every hour.

So better not escape, but deal with it
Before it clenches you, embrace it
Smile it its face, simply laugh away
Enjoy life in ‘change’, live it this way.

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Basic Factors To Keep In Mind While Hiring a Nanny For your Child 

Hiring a nanny for kids has been less like a choice and more of a necessity for me. And am sure same is the case with many parents in today’s age! A nanny is not just a need of the working parents. Stay-at-home-moms too look for some sort of support when it comes to managing the household chores along with kids.

Having someone totally unknown to take care of kids, isn’t an easy proposition but if you have made up your mind for the same, you must consider a few important factors before appointing one. Apart from a relevant background check and police verification, which is an absolute must for hiring any sort of help, there are some more relevant factors that must be kept in mind.

Having had both good and bad experiences with a few nannies in past I can list a few such criterias that may help you to judge the right caregiver for your child.


1. Health and Hygiene

Needless to say, that’s the most essential criteria to keep in mind. Kids are prone to infections and having someone with poor hygiene near them would only worsen their chances of falling sick often. So while appointing a candidate, make sure to check if she has a pre-existing health condition. Be upfront and unhesitant in asking about the same. Judge her hygiene habits by her appearance. Someone wearing neat clothes, clean shoes, with hair neatly tied and nails trimmed would surely know the relevance of proper hygiene.


2. Manners and Language

Kids learn by example and don’t leave a chance to imitate people around them. Hence, it’s important to set right examples in front of them. If we, as parents, are always mindful of how and what we speak to our kids, it makes sense to have a nanny who is equally mindful of the same. Sharing my own experience, I was quite annoyed when one of the few words my kids learned was ‘Oye’ and ‘Abe’, more so because no one uses such words in our family. While this may not matter to many parents, it certainly isn’t an ignorable criteria. So do ensure that the nanny is well behaved, good mannered in front of your kids and do not use any disrespectful word or language.


3. Experience in Handling Kids

It’s always a good idea to appoint someone who has experience in dealing with kids. Handling kids require patience and strength, and someone who is totally new at this task would find it difficult to maintain her calm while dealing with the child’s tantrums. My nanny who was totally inexperienced at this, would get intimidated to see my baby crying. So having her around, especially at the moments when I needed her assistance the most, was of no help as she would get too scared to pick up my bub. Someone who would have a prior experience in handling such situations would serve a better purpose.


4. Her References and Support

While interviewing a nanny, do ask about her local references. It’s an additional bonus if any one from her family/friends are in vicinity or at least in the same town. The need of such a support arises in the times of contingency. To share an episode, my nanny suddenly fell ill one night and had to be rushed to the hospital. Being alone at home with two kids, it was tough for me to handle the situation. I finally had to call my neighbours who were kind enough to offer help. In times of such unexpected events, having someone from her family come within a span of few hours would make a lot a difference.


5. Sincerity, Dedication and Affection

When it comes to our kids, we want to settle with no one else but a good human being and these qualities are a basic indicator of the same. You would certainly like your nanny to work with some sort of organization and procedure and not follow shortcuts at each step. As a mother, we would always want someone who is honest and sincere in approach; dedicated to her work and is warm and affectionate towards the child. Only then can we wholeheartedly trust her with our kids.

Are you looking for a suitable nanny for your kid? Hope these basic factors help you take the right decision. Good Luck!


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Oh Mother!

(‘My Person’: someone who is my confidant; my friend, philosopher and guide; who can read my heart and talk to my eyes. And this could be no one else but my mother. )

This piece is dedicated to my mother who is my biggest support, critic and guide. I can never thank her enough for what she does but I can surely make her feel special in my own unique way. This poem is just to let her know that she is the best and the loveliest.

Now that I have become a mother myself, I know that motherhood ain’t easy and I value, even more, the hardships and pains that my mom must have gone through while raising a difficult girl like me. So here is my small attempt to thank my mom for always being there by my side.

Mother

 

 

 

 

 

Oh mother! You are my guiding light
who illuminates the paths I traverse.

You are my source of strength.
Every time I fall I look upto your hands
which are ready to caress me,
pat my back and encourage me to rise again.

You are the angel of my life
who would always bring a smile on my face.

Seeing you I forget my worries
Talking to you I feel light
Sleeping on your lap makes me experience heaven.

Oh mother!
It is usually said that God is invisible
But ask me ! I can hug my ‘God’ everyday
and feel the divinity of her arms.

Thank you mom
for being what you are
and for making me what I am.
Your love never needs a condition
Your trust never needs a reason

Thank you mom for being ‘My Person’

 

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Also read another poetic piece that tries to beautifully embrace the change that we all inevitably face in life, The Change

The Story Of Missing Ear Loop

Motherhood makes a woman more loving, affectionate and caring. It also makes a woman more cautious, paranoid and to an extent always overthinking.

We got our daughter’s ears pierced when she was seven months old. Whether to get it done at this age or not was a topic of huge debate at our home. While my husband didn’t want our girl to go through any sort of discomfort at such a tender age, I believed it didn’t involve any hassle. After  being convinced about the safety of the entire procedure and ensuring to get it done under the effect of local anesthesia by expert hands, he finally yielded to this decision.

The task itself was no big deal. My daughter didn’t shed a drop of tear. In fact she was comfortable all through and enjoyed the entire attention that she was getting by her parents, doctor and his assistants. Once the procedure was over, we felt a sigh of relief. We clicked her pictures with the beautiful set of ear rings that she wore and kept admiring her beauty.

Since then, the ear rings have become a major part of her identity. She has a twin brother and though the two do not look alike, the earrings help significantly in clearing the confusion many people have while differentiating between the two.

For us, as parents, there was nothing left about those earrings to discuss. Life was moving on smoothly and happily. Until one day when one of her ear loops went missing.

She had come out of her routine bath. The decrepit old massage woman, who massages and bathes her everyday, was dressing her up. I was trying to help her when suddenly I saw that the precious golden loop which we bought a few months back, adorned only one of her ears. I bawled, ‘where has the ear ring gone?’ The massage lady,  who was so far lost in her own world while grappling my girl with her clothes, retorted, ‘what, which ear ring? I haven’t seen any?’. On making her realize that my tiny little tot was happily wearing ear rings since past few months, she smiled on her own senility and dotage.

It took me a while to understand where that loop went missing. One of my major concerns was that it should not reach in my kids’ hand. Else for them it will be a new delicacy to savour. While I turned the entire house topsy-turvy in order to find that missing piece, the massage woman kept sitting at the corner of room, still wondering how she couldn’t notice the loop on my girl’s ear.

Everyone present in the house was on a mission of finding the missing loop, but all for different reasons. While I wanted to be assured that it’s not consumed by any of my kids, the domestic help wanted to find it quickly in order to be saved from a day long task of doing the same. The massage woman, without budging, kept praying to her Lord as she didn’t want to be blamed for any sort of negligence or thievery.

We searched all the possible places starting with the washroom where she had her bath to flipping the bed covers. Each of her toys, books, clothes were scouted around. The entire task went out for about three hours when finally the missing loop was found from beneath the hind legs of the sofa kept in the hall. I thanked God for being able to find that tiny yet precious ear piece.

We had put that loop back on my girl’s ears. Though she was unaware of the entire ruckus that was created in the house, she still enjoyed the attention that she got for a little while. The entire session ended and everyone breathed a sigh of relief, except me.

The grey cells of my tiny brain didn’t let me settle and relax. For I kept thinking  how that loop reached the place from where it was found. My girl never sits in that corner of the house, so finding the missing ear loop from there was surprising and to an extent mysterious. So while one mystery resolved for the mother in me, another one started to unravel in my mind.