Basic Factors To Keep In Mind While Hiring a Nanny For your Child 

Hiring a nanny for kids has been less like a choice and more of a necessity for me. And am sure same is the case with many parents in today’s age! A nanny is not just a need of the working parents. Stay-at-home-moms too look for some sort of support when it comes to managing the household chores along with kids.

Having someone totally unknown to take care of kids, isn’t an easy proposition but if you have made up your mind for the same, you must consider a few important factors before appointing one. Apart from a relevant background check and police verification, which is an absolute must for hiring any sort of help, there are some more relevant factors that must be kept in mind.

Having had both good and bad experiences with a few nannies in past I can list a few such criterias that may help you to judge the right caregiver for your child.


1. Health and Hygiene

Needless to say, that’s the most essential criteria to keep in mind. Kids are prone to infections and having someone with poor hygiene near them would only worsen their chances of falling sick often. So while appointing a candidate, make sure to check if she has a pre-existing health condition. Be upfront and unhesitant in asking about the same. Judge her hygiene habits by her appearance. Someone wearing neat clothes, clean shoes, with hair neatly tied and nails trimmed would surely know the relevance of proper hygiene.


2. Manners and Language

Kids learn by example and don’t leave a chance to imitate people around them. Hence, it’s important to set right examples in front of them. If we, as parents, are always mindful of how and what we speak to our kids, it makes sense to have a nanny who is equally mindful of the same. Sharing my own experience, I was quite annoyed when one of the few words my kids learned was ‘Oye’ and ‘Abe’, more so because no one uses such words in our family. While this may not matter to many parents, it certainly isn’t an ignorable criteria. So do ensure that the nanny is well behaved, good mannered in front of your kids and do not use any disrespectful word or language.


3. Experience in Handling Kids

It’s always a good idea to appoint someone who has experience in dealing with kids. Handling kids require patience and strength, and someone who is totally new at this task would find it difficult to maintain her calm while dealing with the child’s tantrums. My nanny who was totally inexperienced at this, would get intimidated to see my baby crying. So having her around, especially at the moments when I needed her assistance the most, was of no help as she would get too scared to pick up my bub. Someone who would have a prior experience in handling such situations would serve a better purpose.


4. Her References and Support

While interviewing a nanny, do ask about her local references. It’s an additional bonus if any one from her family/friends are in vicinity or at least in the same town. The need of such a support arises in the times of contingency. To share an episode, my nanny suddenly fell ill one night and had to be rushed to the hospital. Being alone at home with two kids, it was tough for me to handle the situation. I finally had to call my neighbours who were kind enough to offer help. In times of such unexpected events, having someone from her family come within a span of few hours would make a lot a difference.


5. Sincerity, Dedication and Affection

When it comes to our kids, we want to settle with no one else but a good human being and these qualities are a basic indicator of the same. You would certainly like your nanny to work with some sort of organization and procedure and not follow shortcuts at each step. As a mother, we would always want someone who is honest and sincere in approach; dedicated to her work and is warm and affectionate towards the child. Only then can we wholeheartedly trust her with our kids.

Are you looking for a suitable nanny for your kid? Hope these basic factors help you take the right decision. Good Luck!


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Oh Mother!

(‘My Person’: someone who is my confidant; my friend, philosopher and guide; who can read my heart and talk to my eyes. And this could be no one else but my mother. )

This piece is dedicated to my mother who is my biggest support, critic and guide. I can never thank her enough for what she does but I can surely make her feel special in my own unique way. This poem is just to let her know that she is the best and the loveliest.

Now that I have become a mother myself, I know that motherhood ain’t easy and I value, even more, the hardships and pains that my mom must have gone through while raising a difficult girl like me. So here is my small attempt to thank my mom for always being there by my side.

Mother

 

 

 

 

 

Oh mother! You are my guiding light
who illuminates the paths I traverse.

You are my source of strength.
Every time I fall I look upto your hands
which are ready to caress me,
pat my back and encourage me to rise again.

You are the angel of my life
who would always bring a smile on my face.

Seeing you I forget my worries
Talking to you I feel light
Sleeping on your lap makes me experience heaven.

Oh mother!
It is usually said that God is invisible
But ask me ! I can hug my ‘God’ everyday
and feel the divinity of her arms.

Thank you mom
for being what you are
and for making me what I am.
Your love never needs a condition
Your trust never needs a reason

Thank you mom for being ‘My Person’

 

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Also read another poetic piece that tries to beautifully embrace the change that we all inevitably face in life, The Change

The Story Of Missing Ear Loop

Motherhood makes a woman more loving, affectionate and caring. It also makes a woman more cautious, paranoid and to an extent always overthinking.

We got our daughter’s ears pierced when she was seven months old. Whether to get it done at this age or not was a topic of huge debate at our home. While my husband didn’t want our girl to go through any sort of discomfort at such a tender age, I believed it didn’t involve any hassle. After  being convinced about the safety of the entire procedure and ensuring to get it done under the effect of local anesthesia by expert hands, he finally yielded to this decision.

The task itself was no big deal. My daughter didn’t shed a drop of tear. In fact she was comfortable all through and enjoyed the entire attention that she was getting by her parents, doctor and his assistants. Once the procedure was over, we felt a sigh of relief. We clicked her pictures with the beautiful set of ear rings that she wore and kept admiring her beauty.

Since then, the ear rings have become a major part of her identity. She has a twin brother and though the two do not look alike, the earrings help significantly in clearing the confusion many people have while differentiating between the two.

For us, as parents, there was nothing left about those earrings to discuss. Life was moving on smoothly and happily. Until one day when one of her ear loops went missing.

She had come out of her routine bath. The decrepit old massage woman, who massages and bathes her everyday, was dressing her up. I was trying to help her when suddenly I saw that the precious golden loop which we bought a few months back, adorned only one of her ears. I bawled, ‘where has the ear ring gone?’ The massage lady,  who was so far lost in her own world while grappling my girl with her clothes, retorted, ‘what, which ear ring? I haven’t seen any?’. On making her realize that my tiny little tot was happily wearing ear rings since past few months, she smiled on her own senility and dotage.

It took me a while to understand where that loop went missing. One of my major concerns was that it should not reach in my kids’ hand. Else for them it will be a new delicacy to savour. While I turned the entire house topsy-turvy in order to find that missing piece, the massage woman kept sitting at the corner of room, still wondering how she couldn’t notice the loop on my girl’s ear.

Everyone present in the house was on a mission of finding the missing loop, but all for different reasons. While I wanted to be assured that it’s not consumed by any of my kids, the domestic help wanted to find it quickly in order to be saved from a day long task of doing the same. The massage woman, without budging, kept praying to her Lord as she didn’t want to be blamed for any sort of negligence or thievery.

We searched all the possible places starting with the washroom where she had her bath to flipping the bed covers. Each of her toys, books, clothes were scouted around. The entire task went out for about three hours when finally the missing loop was found from beneath the hind legs of the sofa kept in the hall. I thanked God for being able to find that tiny yet precious ear piece.

We had put that loop back on my girl’s ears. Though she was unaware of the entire ruckus that was created in the house, she still enjoyed the attention that she got for a little while. The entire session ended and everyone breathed a sigh of relief, except me.

The grey cells of my tiny brain didn’t let me settle and relax. For I kept thinking  how that loop reached the place from where it was found. My girl never sits in that corner of the house, so finding the missing ear loop from there was surprising and to an extent mysterious. So while one mystery resolved for the mother in me, another one started to unravel in my mind.

Letter

A Unique Letter To Santa Claus

Read this interesting letter to Santa Claus by one year olds who have an interesting and unique wishlist. Be ready for a hearty laugh.

Dear Santa

This is our first Christmas. We are too young to write on our own. Language and words are yet to empower us.  Hence, like for all other activities, we have to seek help of our mom in writing this letter as she is the only  one who meaningfully  understands our coos and babas.

Letter

Our mom keeps singing the jingle bell song of yours and she keeps saying that Santa Claus gets gifts for ‘good children’. So we know you are one old yet sweet man who will fulfill our wishlist. You probably  would think that  we are too young to have a wishlist of our own.  But you know,  we are born in the world where needs and demands always exceed the supply.  As we attempt to become the desired ‘good children’,  we hope that you too will fulfill this wishlist with utmost pleasure and delight.

 

Click here to read the complete letter.

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Also read an interesting letter to God. Click here

Dilemmas

Dilemmas Of A Mother of Twins 

Being a mom of  twins is unique experience. There is double the joy, double the pleasure. There is also double the nervousness and double the guilt. As a mother of twins not a single day passes by when I am not hit with dilemmas. Dilemmas of being a just mom, of not being partial to one child, of being able to give my best to both the kids.

Dilemmas

Read about my experience, my worries and my hopes in this post that I wrote for Mrigaa.com.

Click on the link here to read about it in detail

Also read Hilarious Questions I Am Asked As A Mother Of Twins